Thursday, April 07, 2011

A day of food.. and blogging negativity/hate mail

I don't post everything I eat on this blog, but I do post a lot more on my Facebook Page. I get a lot of emails about this subject. Some are very polite and friendly, while others are pretty damn rude! I think that's one thing that has shocked me the most is the amount of hate/rude emails I get. I know that when you blog, you put yourself out there, but it gets tiring to have so much negativity thrown my way on a daily basis.

I know I'm overweight and struggling, but it is not necessary to write and berate me for my food choices. What you see on this blog is just a glimpse of what I eat daily. I also make food for my children who are active young men. I posted a Gluten Free Banana Coconut Mini Cake the other day on facebook and got 10 nasty emails from different people trying "shame me".


Does it matter that I only took one bite of them?


Should I even have to justify that to anyone?


Give me a break! I know I'm overweight and I know WHY. It's not because I made a damn baked good. It's because I have an emotional response to things that have happened to me and being overweight is my protection. I'm working on it.

 OK?


 It's a painfully slow process, but I'm doing the mental work to make changes and it's not easy.

I don't talk about my childhood here, but trust me, I have a lot to process and plow through and I'm doing it. My way of coping is just visible from the outside while many people hide their pain through cutting/alcohol drug abuse, starving. I overeat.

Which brings me to my next "issue". I stick to my budget MOST of the time. I have a huge stash of nutritional yeast, but no other bulk items. I don't include coffee in my budget anymore though. I consider FOOD as my budget. When I don't stick to my budget, I mention it or if I am given food, I mention it (Like my Birthday Almost Raw Key Lime Pie and my Holiday Meals/Desserts!)

Because I stick to my budget, I am not always able to re-test certain recipes in a timely fashion. I have to plan very carefully to include expensive ingredients in my weekly budget of around $25. What you see is what you get here.. and sometimes, I'd rather splurge my entire $3.33 a day on Cherries and eat frozen soup for the rest of my meals! I hope that YOU can understand that.

I challenge any of you to eat for $3.33 a day!


 Seriously!


 Do it!


 I'd love to see your strategies and what you come up with!

Finally, the Anti-Soy people, please just SHUT UP. Stop emailing me. You guys are nuts. There was a soy discussion my facebook a couple weeks ago and holy moly, some people have gone off the deep end.

Organic soy is part of my diet and always will be. It is not responsible for my weight gain. It is not going to hurt me. I don't give a BLEEP what Weston Price has to say about it.. OK?

Now that all of that is off my chest, I will give you a glimpse of what I ate yesterday. haha..

Breakfast: Hummus and Veggie Nori Rolls
Collards stuffed with Chipotle Hummus and 3 Ingredient Veggie Burgers
Split Pea Dahl
Oatmeal with Raisins, Homemade Soymilk and Grapefruit

This morning I had a smoothie (soybeans, frozen strawberry,banana, stevia, lime juice)

I feel a little big better venting and getting some of this off my chest. The last couple of weeks, I have been feeling really negative about blogging and like I just wanted to stop all together. Sometimes, if feels like what's the point of doing this when it draws so much negativity? When blogging is not fun anymore, why bother?

I'm hoping I can let this stuff go and focus on the positive aspects of the blogging community. 

I want to thank everyone who is positive, who sends me lovely, supportive emails, leaves me nice comments and shares their lives through their own blogs. You guys are much more powerful than the haters!


For those of you who are bloggers, do you get hate mail? If so, how do you deal with it?

78 comments:

  1. Ignore the haters. Seriously. What you do, putting yourself out there, is brave and you inspire countless people! If I don't like a blog I just move on. No need to spend time berating people who are trying their best. Jeez.

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  2. Goodness. If someone is displeased with seeing your posts, you'd think they would just unsubscribe. I'm sorry that you're getting nasty emails, it's a bit shocking to me that people do that.

    I have to day that, although my diet is healthier than most, your posts definitely inspire me to make better food choices. I love the fact that gorgeous photos of healthy food sprinkle my facebook feed. And, if there are some deserts sprinkled in there, have at it! It's not about deprivation at the end of the day.

    Anyway, the point is that I really appreciate your posts, keep them coming, please!

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  3. I appreciate your page not only for myself, but because when someone tells me that it's too expensive to be Vegan, I can be like, "I know! It can cost as much as $3.33 a day!" (I also include Raw for $10 a Day in that.)

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  4. I just wanted to say I am so sorry you receive negative comments. I love your blog. I read it everyday. And, I think you are fun and inspirational! I assure you your silent, supportive readers far outweigh those who have negative thoughts. I will pray for you and any deliverance you need from your struggles. You are just a joy of a person!!

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  5. I don't know what it is about the internet that people think gives them right to judge and hate on people that they don't even know! It is ridiculous. They are only getting a glimpse, and should keep their rude opinions to themselves!

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  6. It's so ridiculous that people would send you hate mail. If they don't like it, it's easy enough to unsubscribe, but there isn't anything to dislike. You post beautiful pictures of light and straightforward to prepare food that isn't expensive.

    Ignore them, some people just have nothing better to do than spread their negativity around on the Internet. Though it's easier said than done. People are silly sometimes.

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  7. Oh my God!You don't have to explain yourself to anyone out there!People should mind their own bussiness and leave you alone!I think you do a wonderfull job and I love the food you make.If only I could eat as healthy as you(though I'm vegan I can't stop eating crap pretty often)! Just don't let them bring you down!

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  8. I'm SO sorry for the hate mail! I'm not big enough a blogger to get hate mail, lol, so I don't know what I'd do, but I hope you keep on blogging and don't let the negativity get you down. I hope you know that there are more people that LOVE your blog, and appreciate the information you give than there are haters. I think the relative anonimity of the internet has made people feel like they can be openly rude, and I wish it wasn't that way.

    I noticed when I went vegan a couple yrs ago that suddenly people, one "friend" in particular, went 'vegan police' on me and would come over and say 'that -whatever i had cooked- doesn't look animal product free!' in doing these blogs, posting healthy recipes, etc we are not saying we're perfect, we're just striving for health, and sometimes struggling as we go like everyone else. keep your head up.. I still eat soy too!

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  9. holy crap. Eff those hates, seriously. Some people have nothing better to do than be all high and mighty, judging others all day. I'm with everyone else--don't let them get to you (I know it's hard). What you're doing is amazing, and you're incredibly generous for sharing that with us. Just because you don't cater directly to everyone's individual diets doesn't give them the right to berate you. If they want you to cook only certain things, fine. They can hire you, for a whole lot more than $3.33/day. Keep your chin up!

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  10. There will always be hater and people with strong opinions. I know it hard to ignore and I have had my own share of them, specially when it comes what I feed my kids. Please know have so many who loves your blog. Keep up the good work!!!!

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  11. Wow, I'm quite shocked you get nasty comments. You're on my Facebook News Feed and I just love seeing the pictures and thinking about different, inexpensive ways to put foods together. I just recommended you to a vegan friend who is having to work her budget awfully hard -- I think you're awesome and a great resource. Lots of my friends have checked you out.

    People will say awful things online, in relative anonymity, that they would never say to somebody's face. And yes, people get onto their pet issue, like soy, and they just need so badly for the world to know they're "right." It activates something within them, and they lose all reason. I'm sorry such a fun, gorgeous blog like yours has to suffer from that. I do hope you keep blogging and sharing on Facebook.

    I appreciate that you shared your struggles with weight -- you have every right to your own struggles and your own weight. But you know, I don't read you because I think you're skinny. I read you because of the joy I feel around beautiful, nourishing, healthy, fun food on this blog. Thank you for being here.

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  12. Melody, that is ridiculous, and I applaud you for being so open and confronting this. Don't let this negativity get to you - and it seems like you're conquering it. If you put yourself out there, it'll always be easy for idiots to criticize. Move on, and keep doing what you're doing. You're a rock star and an inspiration!

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  13. I agree with what a lot of people have already said. Haters love to hate, that's just what they do and they deserve to be ignored. I think there are nice and polite ways to make suggestions but assuming that you can berate someone for their food choices is just insane. Everybody's relationship with food is different and worthy of equal respect.

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  14. Oh, you could also moderate comments on your blog, and have a warning about that right on the comment part -- if people know that negative things won't show up they may stop posting. You could also use the privacy/block settings on Facebook. Really, if it's wearing you out, it's cool to find a way to get some of it out of your life.

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  15. I, for one, LOVE your blog. My health has improved because of your recipes!!!

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  16. I'm sorry you're getting poor feedback! Guess some people have never heard the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

    I love your blog and I think it's great that you share as many recipes as you do. I will continue to be a happy and content reader. Chin up :)

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  17. Jeezus, people are so ridiculous. People have accused me of being a shitty excuse for a raw chef because I eat cooked food too - um, hello, do PASTRY chefs live on pastries alone? I'm also completely open about the fact that I'm vegan for health, not ethical reasons, and you wouldn't believe how many times I've been accused of being heartless, a hypocrite (in what way, I don't know), and "no better than an average joe." People have WAY too much time on their hands...I've let it hurt me before, but unfortunately the only thing you can do is let it go. Delete the comments and don't reply to the emails, and keep doing what you're doing, because you're fabulous at it.

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  18. Hey Melody. Damn, those people suck! Why would they get upset with you for eating a damn cake? Do they have nothing better to do with their time? Obviously not. Stupid haters! Please don't stop blogging!

    I've actually never gotten any hate mail. I had a couple negative comments, one berating me for not including recipes for my upcoming book (which I'm not allowed to do because they're in the book) and another who was offended by something I said ... that was slightly offensive and insensitive...but that's just how I am.

    I'm sorry those people are being assholes, but we love you!!

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  19. One thing I have learned about communication is that often times people harp and hate on the things in other people that they see in themselves. I would say that it is very likely that someone came across a recipe that sounded wonderful, and then they felt guilty for either eating it or thinking about eating it, and they decided it was easier/better to berate you for the recipe and criticize your lifestyle rather than deal with their own emotional bullshit.

    Mel... you are an amazing woman, and I feel honored and blessed to have had the opportunity to be part of your journey.

    Delete that crap. Don't let people project their garbage onto you. Don't get down on yourself.It's a complete waste of precious energy. Oh yea... and send them love... Darkness cannot be dispelled by darkness, only light can do that; Hate cannot be erased by hate (negative feelings toward them OR yourself), ONLY LOVE CAN ERASE HATE.
    ~Silverhawke

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  20. You are hilarious...soy haters, please...shut up! ahahhahaha :) Don't pay attention to people who judge and/or preach, it's a waste of time. Keep doing what you're doing and you'll hit your goal, your way! :)

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  21. Screw 'em.

    If you're getting hate mail you're being read, so yay! Just delete those emails and read the positive ones over and over. Your blog has an audience. You help us to think differently about how we spend and to think more creatively in how we cook. Don't stop.

    I <3 soy, by the way.

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  22. Wow. I would be so sad if you stopped blogging. I think some people feel free to be nasty on the internet because they can hide behind their relative anonymity. It's easy to dehumanize someone when you don't have to look them in the eye and say awful things.

    All you can do is be yourself, and if people don't like it, that's their issue, not yours.

    Your food, and your ability to cook such amazing things on a strict budget is truly inspiring.

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  23. You know you're someone important in the blog world when you're getting hate mail =).

    Kidding aside, I'm surprised though, your blog doesn't seem at all controversial to me, please just hit delete and continue your great posts!

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  24. Don't let them win!!! Those negative people all they want is to destroy what they are not able to achieve, "jealous.” You are a WINNER so ignore them and keep doing what you like and those of us who enjoy your blog will continue to be thankful for all of your generosity.

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  25. I can't believe that people send you hate mail and try to make you feel guilty about what you eat. It's none of their business and you shouldn't have to justify yourself, no matter what you eat. If they don't find your blog interesting or they don't like the food you post, they should simply just not visit your blog.

    Honestly, what are they trying to prove? These people have big problems.

    Having said that, I love all your recipes I think they're really healthy and delicious...I've tried many of them.

    And, I admire your budgeting abilities. I've been trying to budget more lately and it's a challenge.

    You're awesome, and officious, judgmental people just plain suck!!

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  26. I'm sorry you're getting any flack at all. Please ignore them! I'd hate for you to quit blogging. I love your blog so much :)

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  27. I seriously don't get why people have to go out of their way to be so hateful. To me, blogs are about opinions and no matter what, they will differ widely. That is why I like blogs to find others with similar thoughts yet others that aren't to challenge what I believe in. You info and creativity amazes me and love that I get to follow it. I know it's tough because I know it would weigh me down to but let the haters go and let them wallow in the negativity they create. Look towards the positive.

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  28. I have a very tight budget also and sometimes that means I have to make compromises.I also do not eat a true vegan diet. I eat about 98% vegan. Why? Well because I'm not vegan but I happen to believe that meat and dairy at not good for you. SO yes, I have been the subject of ridicule.
    I also FIRMLY believe that soy is good for you. Anything that says otherwise is just propaganda and I wish the soy haters would just shut up already. LOVE you, and just keep on keeping on.

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  29. I don't get much hatemail...thankfully. Then again I write to a fairly small and select audience: I am a female natural bodybuilder (hobbyist, not competing at this time) and my readers are mostly like-minded young females.

    I'm sorry I have never commented here before (especially since you're getting so much negativity). You have been in my reader for quite a while and I read and save LOTS of your recipes -- I'm a newbie vegetarian with an eye towards going vegan and your recipes and ideas are so, so wonderful!

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  30. THANK YOU.

    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!

    You're amazing.

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  31. I RARELY comment on blogs but feel like I need to here. I applaud you, you really put yourself out there and telling basically the whole world you are an over-eater was courageous at the very least! Seems to me that people need to quit bitching on your blog when they're here to get healthy recipes FOR FREE and that are CHEAP. Where else are they going to find that? They should be thanking you!

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  32. I think you're freakin' awesome.

    'Nuf said :)

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  33. Amen and "here, here" to everything that has been said in previous comments. It doesn't surprise me to hear that someone with talent and creative energy getting put to good use is fielding criticism and anger. You are courageous and brave, most are not. Keep going!

    Those people can say what they like but you do not have to give it one moment's thought or validity. It has neither. I bet for every bad thing said you have 100 comments that are positive if you look back. From one Mel to another, remember the good and forget the rest.

    Mel Def

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  34. Oh my gosh! I can't believe the grief you are getting. So undeserved! So sorry Mel, sending you love! You are a rockin lady, ignore the BS! We all love ya! Xoxo

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  35. I quite enjoy your blog and that fact that you are you and not trying to be someone else. keep up the good work and forget about the haters. you have to wonder about people who go around trying to find the fault in others.

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  36. WHAT? I can't believe people are like that. That's one thing I hate about the internet. Anonymity apparently leads some people to think it's okay to be very, very rude and hateful. I'm so sorry you're dealing with nasty emails.

    Your blog has been such a huge inspiration to me. Please ignore the haters.

    And though I'm not vegan anymore, tofu and tempeh are still a huge part of our diet. The only reason I stay away from it for family meals is that my daughter is intolerant--not because soy is evil. (Believe me, I have that argument ALL THE TIME here, as Weston A. Pricers abound at our farmers markets.)

    Anyway, the point is... You're awesome and inspirational. Keep it up!

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  37. I love your blog and FB posts--both are inspiring!

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  38. kudos to you for putting this out there. and for doing the hard work of healing yourself.

    i occasionally get angry emails. and sometimes i respond, while others just feel like it will be a waste of time.

    surround yourself with the people who support and love you. for every negative email or comment, make a point to read one of the positive ones. and just continue to take care of yourself.

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  39. I praise you for doing what you're doing and making all the AWESOME things that you make. I look forward to your posts and seeing what you've cooked up that I just *have* to try!

    Keep doing what you're doing and stay positive! =)

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  40. Stay positive!

    All the food looks amazing! :-) Great job!!

    Blessings, Debra
    Raw Vegan Diet

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  41. Argh, I can't believe you're getting emails/comments like that. I think you should do what YOU like, eat what YOU want, and spend what YOU want on a meal -- this is your blog, right? Keep doing what you're doing...I enjoy it!

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  42. Well, as they say: "haterz gonna hate" so try not to take it to heart ( I know it's easier to say than do) but there are a lot of people who love your blog and appreciate all the healthy recipes! :)

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  43. i dont usually comment on the blogs i read, but i love yours and i think you create beautiful food! ignore those people, your blog and recipes are wonderful!

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  44. Haters be darned! I love your blog and recipes and think your food looks lovely AND super nutritious. It always surprises me how nasty can be. Don't let that affect you and just now that there are many more people that love your creations than nasty readers.

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  45. Screw 'em! I'm sure you already know this, but you shouldn't take the stupid, ignorant words that many people throw at you seriously, ever. You win automatically just for doing what you do.

    Your blog is super-inspiring, and I hope that one day I can have one as cool as yours with as many people wanting to read what I have to say :) Hakuna Matata!

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  46. YOU are awesome! I appreciate all you write and what you are doing and how you do it. Unfortunately, some people are so, so terribly sad, lonely, and/or without anything that their only way to cope is to attack others. I feel pity for these people as they have such empty lives. Yours is full and positive because you are choosing to make it that way. And in this you have added to my life as well - THANK YOU!!!

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  47. There are always going to be hater out there or people who just complain. Most of them are likely jealous I usually I suspect. You have a lot of talent in making awesome food and pictures. It's sad that because you've put yourself out there and been honest about your desires to lose weight, and are honest about your eats, that people find more ways to target you. I don't also get why people think that one eats everything they post or posts everything they eat.

    I guess you asked how I deal with it and I just try to realize it's only one out of 100 that is rude. Most people appreciate and care about what you do and keep doing it for them. Feel free to email/vent to me any time! Here for you!

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  48. I'm sorry I don't comment more often with positive feedback. I love your blog and your recipes and your photographs and your life outlook and your ability to overcome adversity and the way you call out the haters!

    Keep up the great work. It is appreciated, even if you don't hear it enough :)

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  49. I'm sending positive wishes your way. Thanks for an awesome blog!

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  50. We are ALL a work in progress. Ignore the unhappy negative nellies.

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  51. I can't believe that people would write negative things. I guess I should be thankful that I don't have a lot of people comment on my blog. Every time i write a post I imagine people are reading it saying "here's yet another post about her failures, can't she just get her act together?" Like you said it's a work in progress and you know what, no one has the right to judge anyone else. I think the internet makes people anonymous so they feel like they can say what ever they want. I am totally impressed by your budget and your food and that you are going back to school. Good luck and keep up the great posts!

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  52. im so sorry Melody. i have nothing but the beepest respect for you and i dont know why others do not.sometimes you can tell why a person might have a problem with another person...but with you i cant think of a single thing.and no, most people could not eat like how you do on your budget.

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  53. I am disgusted that you get hate email. I follow your blog incessantly and you are constant motivation for me to create new, interesting, tasty vegan meals.

    You rock my world! Screw the haters!

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  54. Dearest Melody, I heart you, I heart soy and haters obviously have nothing else going on in their sad little lives than to take precious (obviously not precious) time to spread hate. F*** 'em. sorry for the language, but it's ridiculous. Keep calm & carry on ;) xox

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  55. When you get hatemail, you know you must be writing some good shit!

    :-)

    I enjoy your blog, and they do say you can't trust a skinny chef anyway. Good luck with your weight loss :-)

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  56. Melody, I am very, very sorry you have to deal with so many idiots. Your food choices are non of their business. I love, love, love reading your blog. You put so much love, energy, and work into your recipes and into the whole site. Keep up the good work!
    And those soy haters, they should really shut up and read the latest research on soy and not that outdated and totally inaccurate crap.

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  57. I was actually in shock reading this post. I had no idea you could possibly be getting horrible comments, and I simply can't understand how people could think they have a right to ben hurtful just to make themselves feel better. I know ignoring haters is easier said than done, so instead I'll say focus on we people out ehre who completely support you :)

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  58. Meolody - I say ignore'em or DEFRIEND THEM! If they don't have anything nice to say - or can't keep from telling you how to live your life - you don't need them in your life! Block'em from your feed!

    You know I just think somethings in the air - the past few weeks have been testy all around - with me and well you can see worldwide.

    Love your blog, food, photo's and a fellow New Englander (born in Hanover) though transplanted to AK 30 years ago, happy travel around the country - just stay strong as you are - plenty of supporters here dear!

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  59. Just adding another voice to the ignore the haters crew. Seriously, keep blogging, I for one would be very upset to never see pictures of your delicious looking desserts again!

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  60. Mel-I'm so sorry to hear about this! It must feel great to be getting so much support from your readers over this.

    I have so many questions (being a weight loss blogger and not receiving negative comments that I can recall). First, don't you identify yourself as a vegan blogger first and a budget blogger second and a blogger who would like to lose weight third? When did you ever portray yourself as a blogger who has the "secret" to weight loss? I find that you are extremely true to your mission and that's why I keep reading your blog when there are so many great blogs out there that I unfortunately don't have the time to read.

    Because I do portray myself FIRST as a weight loss blog, I do have to be very, very careful about the food that I am posting. I could go into gory detail about this, but I don't want to bore everyone. It is simply a fact that most vegan food is not weight loss food and vegan should not be confused with low calorie. I never confused this issue when enjoying your wonderful blog!

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  61. Sorry you're getting hate mail--horrible that people would do that!! you'd think they would just not read your blog if they don't like it/agree with it--but some people have a giant ego and criticizing you for something somehow makes them feel better about their own choices. Jerks.
    Anyway don't stop blogging!! I'm a mostly raw vegan in charge of making vegan meals for my family, something I begrudgingly did at first, but now I like it. And i get SO many great ideas from your site!!
    In fact, I've been meaning to thank you for awhile now, because my 14 month old son is a SUPER picky eater. well, he's really active, and will barely sit still for a meal, is the main issue. but one of the ONLY things he loves and will sit still for and let me feed him is your vegan chocolate "hummus"! I use raw organic cacao and its a great way for him to get extra beans in his diet. Every time he's eating it I'm like "That Melomeals chick is awesome."
    Keep up the great work!

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  62. The people who send you hate mail are just plain nuts, as you pointed out so well in your response to the "soy people." Sheesh. I love your blog.

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  63. Oh sweetie! I am furious with you. How dare anyone treat another person this way. We all have our own battles going on and what matters is that we work on winning the battle. Those negative dopes out there need to learn that negativity does not produce anything, but more negativity and hate. Hugs and love coming your way.

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  64. I have never posted but I read everything you write so now is the time to add my voice against the hate! You should never have to justify to anyone regarding your own hard work and beliefs. Your recipes are so innovative and easy to follow and your passion for healthy and inexpensive solutions always shine through. Keep at it and stay strong! Thank you!

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  65. im one of those silent supportive followers. i read your blog all the time and you make me really feel like i can keep going and stick to being vegan because i dont have a financial excuse anymore and you are super fucking inspirational. ive only been vegetarian for a year and flip flop between veg to vegan. but the past month ive been reading blogs like yours and you push me to be better! just dont give into their hate and have them change you and charge you up with negativity. you're awesome for sharing what you have. persevere!

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  66. AND QUESTION! you have a picture of split pea dahl - do you happen to have a recipe for that? it sounds amazing! ive been kind of unsuccessful with indian food which is bumming me out bc i love it so much! and that looks so tasty that i totally want to try to make it!!

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  67. Melody, I just read this post and am so sorry that people are so nasty. Your website and recipes are so inspiring, and I love when I get a few moments to sit an check out your blog.

    Please don't listen to the stupid hateful comments. You're awesome Mel!

    xo Julie

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  68. Hello!
    I just wanted to leave a message to let you know that I have been following your blog for a number of months now, and very much enjoy your creative recipes. I look at each and every blog that I read as an expression of each individual's personal choices and I think it's just nuts that other people PUSH their opinions/choices on you. Clearly we are all guilty of judging others in some way, but I truly believe that we need to RESPECT the choices of others and assume that they have made the right choice for THEMSELVES! This applies not only to food choices, but relationship choices, clothing choices etc. If you are not asking for an opinion, it's completely rude that people feeling the need to disrespect your choices. Hang in there - you are an awesome blogger and I'd really miss your blog if you decided to leave the blog world.

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  69. Sending you positive/love mail! Keep up the great work. That is all. : )

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  70. You are a beautiful person and you rock!!!! :D
    Keep up the amazing work with your blog, I love it! <3
    xoxox

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  71. Melody, you straight up rock the frugal vegan HOUSE, sister. Keep doing all of the great things you're doing. I always look forward to seeing what you're creating in the kitchen. As for those naysayers who clearly are suffering from massive emptiness and lack of meaning in their own lives - show 'em what ya got!

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  72. I follow your blog anyway, but can I just say AMEN to you, lady! I don't understand the anti-soy thing, either. If you don't want to eat it, FINE, but BACK OFF. The Chinese and Japanese have been eating tofu and soy beans for thousands of years, and the Indonesians have been eating tempeh for hundreds of years, and we're talking about some of the longest-lived people on the planet.

    You keep on kicking copious amounts of butt on this blog. I'm one of those people who would be sad if the haters made you stop loving what you do.

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  73. i think what you do is amazing.
    it's great to read such an inspired and creative blog about budgeting and veganism.

    people are bored, and miserable.

    you are great.

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  74. Bless you! I can't believe anyone would give you problems... if this isn't the blog for them, they don't have to read it! I love your posts, and I love soya, so please keep going :)

    Laura x

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  75. I'm commenting now as I'm new and just read this. Some vegans for some reason are "holier than thou" types. For this reason I myself put my story on my blog in the hopes of not rubbing people the wrong way but the truth is we don't owe anyone our story or reasons. Actually we are both artists, moms, around the same age and have had crap happen to us over the years. Wait till life sends them some REAL stress and loss and see how wide their asses are at 35 or 45 (I find most vegans on the net are in their early 20's)...some won't even be vegan anymore by then but you and I and others will still be puttering along our path doing what is right for us regardless of what they do. I think they're nit picking your weight and food due to jealousy as your FB page and Blog are amazing, it's likely also projection. Kinda like those preachers who are always pointing the finger because they are secretly paying hookers, maybe the haters are sneaking out for bacon and ice cream...LOL. As the others on here have already said, ignore the haters as many love what you do. Thanks so much for being here and I wish you much success with your photography and getting your book out!

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  76. Yes, hate mail means you have an audience. It's actually a complement because you are stirring the pot and not just reaching the regular vegan audience!!
    F!!k Weston Price. Hate that son of a b!, tch

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  77. Ugh. People can be such jerks! I only just stumbled upon your blog today for the first time and I think your meals are just gorgeous. It's refreshing to see a vegan who has a really nice balance between "comfort food" and "rabbit food"! Bloggers often tend to be one extreme or the other.

    Nobody has the right to tell you how much to eat - most of your recipes are pretty freakin' healthy anyway. Just shrug it off and move on. Any personal issues you have relating to food are nobody's business but your own xx

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  78. I have just discovered your blog, and while I am not a vegan or a vegitarian I still enjoy your recipes. If somone doesn't like what you read they don't have to take the time to read it much less comment on it. People like that just need to grow up. Keep on writing.

    Ps. Thoes banana mini cake things look really good, what is the recipe for thoes?

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